Hay House sent a newsletter giving its subscribers the opportunity to download Iyanla Vanzant's book Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything. Iyanla Vanzant is a well-known author, life coach, host of her own show, and public speaker. I do enjoy learning from her when she's featured on Oprah Winfrey's network, OWN. But when I saw the email announcement I felt a pang of uneasiness. I did a quick check-in & asked myself if I'm still upset with anyone. Is there any anger or residual unresolved feelings that I'm holding onto? I couldn’t think of anything but that feeling of uneasiness wouldn't leave me alone. I began to wonder, is there something here I should consider looking at more deeply?
As I continue working with women on a variety of issues - maneuvering intimate relationships, deciding how to approach difficult conversations, crafting a plan to achieve their dreams, being consistent in their tasks, work-life balance - I'm noticing how often I ask "what do you want" & more often than not the reply is "I don't know."
Cartagena, Colombia had been on my radar for years & finally in December 2016 I resolved to get there in 2017. Alone or with friends, it was happening.
After sending out a few texts, along with some emails, in about 2 weeks 2 friends & I were all set - hotel & flights booked. Done! My desire lived in me for 2 years before I actually decided to make it happen no matter what. There were always reasons that made so much sense in my head as to why I couldn't go but the truth was I had been spending money on & making time for dinners, clothes, and other miscellaneous items that brought me momentary pleasure but it wasn't until I got focused and adopted the no matter what mentality did I make it happen.
I can't eat ice cream anymore. Please shed a tear for me, I know you feel my pain. The ice cream truck & ice cream shops took all my allowance! I don't even want to calculate how much money I've spent on ice cream.
I know what you're thinking, "Loha why are we talking about ice cream?"
I believe that women are outstanding. I have been blessed to know some phenomenal women. Women who pursue their dreams with dogged persistence or quiet focus, women who are mommas that wear sexy clothing, women who can cook a mean ass meal and write a speech that will make you weep, women who are entrepreneurs, women who go out of their way to spread love,
I've always loved birthdays. Mine, my family's, my friends, even strangers! I've popped bottles at the club, indulged in spa days, embarked on group vacations, nails done, hair done, super duper fly. But as the years pass I'm more reflective. Are you noticing that happening to you, too?