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What does success mean to you?
The road to achieving that success is unpredictable. Who will you need that will help open doors for you? What changes will you have to make to elevate your life? Who will you have the chance to become?
These questions are big enough to excite you & paralyze you at the same time I know because growing means not only stretching past what you know but also learning about yourself at a deeper level. Thrilling and possibly terrifying! Here are some actions you might be unintentionally taking that are sabotaging the success you're seeking:
1) You're focusing only on the thing you're trying to achieve.
The best way for me to demonstrate is to talk about Felisha. Felisha is determined to complete her master's degree by the end of next spring. Her entire focus is on the end that she doesn't actually create any room to enjoy the process, the learning, the chance to collaborate with her classmates. She's so focused on the getting that she's not fully present in the now. Can you relate? What is that kind of pressure doing to your self-talk?
2) Not following through regularly.
Lack of consistency is a big roadblock when you're trying to achieve your success. As you get into the habit of being consistent, you'll become more familiar with the feeling of sticking to your word & how that feels.
3) Not having a Clear Vision, creating a goal, & having a plan.
I know you've heard this before but think about the first day of any of your college classes or any trainings you've taken. What's the first thing you get? Either a syllabus or schedule. That framework shows you how you'll get from point A to point Z. You have a target that helps you stay on track. What happens when you don't create a plan? You wander aimlessly & spend your time in constant reaction mode.
4) You're afraid of having to change your behaviors.
Look I am a huge lover of routines. They're comforting cause they're familiar but I try to be flexible enough to understand that my routines may need to change either just for a moment or permanently. This flexibility is a measure of your ability to make peace with change. How willing are you to be uncomfortable as you make progress by creating new behaviors and getting rid of old thoughts?
5) You're focusing on failures, mistakes & the past.
Failure feels like shit. There's no doubt about it. You put your hopes into something & it doesn't pan out. Depending on what it is it can literally stop you in your tracks for a moment & sometimes for forever. Do you define these mistakes and failures as signs that you'll never succeed? Do you keep replaying them in your mind or do you actively do the work to forgive yourself, heal, learn, & move forward?
6) You’re doing all the things.
In our society there is an obsession with having a lot to do. But in order to actually go after the life you want, you'll have to look at all that you do and decide what will be most effective, fulfilling, & yes, even fun (maybe not always but life should be pleasurable). Are you consciously choosing activities that will have the greatest effect & are in alignment with your desires, dreams, your emotional, & mental health?